How We Met
Kind of long and amazing journey… When we were young, although we stayed in the same town and were just two blocks away, we never really met. HOW I MET HER
First step in getting closer to Eliz
After our
primary education, our destiny has started to bring us together not once but
many times. Back then I was at first posted to Fuchun secondary school. But
unexpectedly, I was eventually transferred to Si ling secondary school due to
which some posting errors just two weeks before the school actually starts.
You may
think the first place we met must be in school. But to be frank the answer is
“No”, it was Bus interchange that made me noticed her. Back then, I still
remembered is her unique behavior that caught my attention. While I was waiting
for my bus home, Eliz happened to be next to me waiting for the same bus too.
But rather than leaning against the handlebar while waiting for the bus to
arrive, Eliz actually sat on the handle bar. At that moment, I just can’t
imagine a small girl like her actually sat on the it like any other boys. So
Unbelievable! So from then onwards, Eliz started to catch my attention. Occasionally
I started to spot her in school without her notice, I guess. For example:
School library, canteen, and even while climbing up or down the stairs. After a
few months, I started keen to know her. Noticing her close friend, Sherline,
was once my primary classmate. I began to approach her by asking her, whether
Eliz would like to know me. A few days later, we finally became friend. J
It starting off quite well, and we began to
know each other better after a few phone chatting. The first phone call was
actually made by Eliz on 1998 either Deepavali, Vesak day or Good Friday. I
only remember is Friday afternoon. Carry on, over the next few months, we only
talk on the phone while we were at home and seldom go out during the weekend or
even holiday. And hence because of that, we were like friends more than a
couple. As expected the relationship didn’t last. Part of the reason is because
I belong to different stream, we were busy with our school works, ie N’ and O’
level, and ECA. Another part is due to my fault for being not proactive
enough and spending more time into my friends than her. Sad to say our
relationship came to a stop just few months after Eliz graduated from secondary
school. L
The next 4
years, although we were in two different worlds, my love to her doesn’t really
stop. Every year during her birthday, I will always make sure I send out my
birthday message to her. Hoping to be the first to wish her happy
birthday, I will always be ready before the clock turns 12 midnight. On the eve
of my first jump, I was hoping for some words of encouragement from someone
close other than my family (because I wouldn’t want them to worry about me). Surprisingly, Eliz name appeared in
my mind. Hoping to receive some encouragement from her, I decided to initiate
by sending her a sms, telling her I am having my first jump tomorrow. Indeed, Eliz
did reply with some encouragement message. This sms really cheers me up and would
say it really bring back my love for her again. J
Since then,
we started to message each other again. Although, is not frequently but I
really appreciate it. It was December 25, 2006, the day where I am celebrating
my 21th birthday. It has been a long time since we last met. Hoping to meet her,
I just causally ask her out to celebrate my birthday together with my
friends. However, Eliz rejected me as she had to attend yoga class. But miracle
started to happen again. While I was preparing, Eliz called me and asked me whether
will it be ok for her to join in. Of course, I said “YES”. Since then we started to meet up with each
other. (ie Ngee Ann Poly open house and lunch at PS) J
On 2007, 2
days before Lunar New Year, I opened up about the crush on her again. Surprising,
no reply or answer was heard. Thinking that there is no way of getting back, even
so we still continue to message and text each other like nothing happened. And
few days later, a sudden unexpected reply was heard again when we were chatting
online. Eliz finally agreed to give me another chance to love her. I am so delighted
and grated! I still remembered on the spot, I promised her and myself that I
will not disregard her again. I will cherish and love her till eternity! From
then onwards, the rest is history! J
Till today,
I hoped I never broke my promises to her. Hehe!
HOW I MET HIM
Before I
met him
I had been
staying 2 blocks away from him for 4years before we met in Si Ling Sec.
Probably we have walked pass each other many times but because we did not know
each other, thus we did not notice one another.
The Act of Fate
After
completing my PSLE, I was posted to Si Ling Sec. Being a rather infamous
school, my mom tried ways to transfer me to other sec sch around the
neighbourhood but to no avail. Guess this was an act of fate.
In Sec Sch
Frankly
speaking, I never noticed him back in sec sch until my bff, Sherline recognized
him as her pri sch classmate. Eventually, she indirectly became our “bridge of
communication”. After knowing that he is interested to befriend me, I started
to notice him around the school and even outside school.
Zhi Xiang is quite noticeable for his big group of friends. I would always see him and his
clique occupying the last row of the bus on my way to school. During my weekly Chinese
orchestra practise, he would be having his NPCC drilling at the car park.
During our break time, I would usually stand outside our music room and see the
NPCC marching. Somehow, I could always spot him among the crowd easily.
Can't
remember exactly how we exchanged contacts. One day, I plucked up the courage to
call him. *shockingly huh* Thereafter, we would often chat on the phone at
night. The only times that we went out together were badminton sessions
together with our friends. Other than that, he would usually rather stay home
or play basketball with his friends. *sobs*
As
expected, our relationship did not last after I went JC. Still remember how we
broke off. Zhi Xiang was the one who initiated the breakup via SMS. I agreed without
hesitation as our relationship has been very stagnant for a long period. I even
told him to cherish and treasure his next girlfriend. Never treat her like how
he treated me. And he promised he will.
Singlehood
I was
single for more than 3 years after we broke up. There were some casual dates
with other guys but there were no sparks between those guys.
Although we
were no longer together, Zhi Xiang would still wish me happy birthday at
12midnight except for 1 particular year. Not sure what happened though.
Just
because he made the effort to wish me, I would also wish him on his birthday
cos of a simple reason - 礼尚往来.
The
Surprise SMS
One night
when I was watching tv with my sister, I received an SMS from him. He wrote that
he missed me. I was shocked. Thinking that he might have SMS the wrong person, I
replied him that I think he messaged the wrong person. He replied promptly that
message was meant for me and asked if he could chat with me. I agreed. Realised
that he was going for his maiden parachute jump the next day, I asked him to be
careful.
Since then,
we would SMS each other every now and then. We would also chat on MSN on
certain timings on weekends.
His 21st
Birthday
One day
while chatting on MSN, he asked him I am free to celebrate his birthday with
his sec school friends. I rejected as I had to go for my yoga lesson with my
mom. Suddenly it was raining heavily and my mom decided to give the lesson a
miss. Not wanting to stay home and rot, I SMS Zhi Xiang and asked if I can join
them and he agreed after checking with his friends.
We arranged to meet at
Marsiling Mrt Station and that was the first time I was early to meet him. :p I
could still remember vividly that he was wearing this polo tee with commando
logo and jeans. We went Vivo to celebrate his birthday at Hong Kong Kim Gary Restaurant. His sec sch
female friends baked him a birthday cake and cookies. Felt so weird for
attending his birthday celebration empty-handed.
It was getting late so he
decided to see me home. One of his guy friends actually wanted to leave with us
but was stopped by Zhi Xiang’s female friends.
We chat a lot on our way home
and I felt that he has changed a lot. It was really relaxed chatting with him. After
that day, we met up more often.
Together Again
To celebrate our last paper in our poly life, I went Dhoby Ghaut Manhattan to celebrate with my
classmates. He wanted to meet me after he book out from his camp. So I agreed. Accompanied him for his lunch at KFC and after that we walked to Orchard. While we were waiting for the train at Orchard Mrt Station, he asked if he
wants me to be his girlfriend again, would I agree. Suddenly, my mind flashed
back to our sec sch relationship. I immediately changed topic in order not to
make us appear awkward.
At Bishan mrt station, my
parents called to meet them for some last min CNY shopping and I had no choice
but to leave Zhi Xiang to go home alone. I alight the train at Ang Mo Kio and I
hurriedly called Sherline and told her about what happened. She encouraged me
to go ahead and accept him as she can sense that he has changed and is taking
more initiative compare to his seconday sch days. I took a few days to decide.
On 2nd day of CNY, when we were chatting online, I asked him if we
can still be friends if my answer is no. He said yes. Suddenly, I gave
him my answer “yes”. That was the start of my wonderful journey with my first and second boyfriend. It was one of my best decisions I made in my life. Of
course the other best decision was the “YES” during his 2 proposals.
